It is foolish to tear one's hair in grief, as though sorrow would be made less by baldness. ~Cicero
Cicero must not have had children. He obviously didn't know what 5 year old boys think about the topic of hair.
Three years ago when we started down this cancer path and informed the kids of what was going on, Emma, our 7 year old at the time, (her 8th birthday was around the corner), knew enough about cancer that many individuals lost their hair and asked if Mom would do so as well. It was the kind of question you would expect a 7 year old to be concerned with, but she wasn't overly so, mostly just curious. At the time we were kind of expecting we would eventually go down that path, but didn't know when and she seemed satisfied with that answer.
Speed up three years from that time to our appointment on Wednesday. We were talking to the kids on the phone on the way home, letting them know a little bit of what was going on. Emma was on, and knowing of Emma's question from three years ago, Tiffany let Emma in on the secret that hair loss would happen and quickly too. Emma, quickly blurted the little secret out to the other kids in the room and next thing we know, Porter was a bit upset.
Emma, being the best stand in for mom you can probably get, asked Porter if he would rather mom have cancer AND hair... or if he thought it would be better to not have cancer though WITHOUT hair.
Let's just say, Moms are supposed to have hair. And what 5 year old would want it any other way?
So, Tiffany, always concerned about being the best mom she can be, decided to let the kid down slowly. So today after her second of three infusions this week went to a neighbor friend and got it cut... way cut. With the kids all getting to help.
Now, you see, I met Tiffany when she had a relatively short, A frame hair cut, and I loved it. Every time she asks if she should cut it, I tell her it's up to her, but I have a fondness for the hair that wooed me.
In an effort to help Porter be OK with a mom without hair, this is what she did....
Just trying to get him used to mom with less hair; and more to come off later!
Oh... and notice her smile. She is in good spirits in the midst of this trial. All things considering, she is in a good place!